The depictions of the perfect housewives and
mothers in retro TV shows was the standard and the reality in the 50's. But only
if their husbands were executives in a company doctors or dentists. Rural and
city moms were different. The suburban executive image had to be maintained.
Don't laugh at Donna Reed and the mom on Father Knows Best and label them hokey.
The gig and ambition to move up the social ladderwas real, and so were the
depicted pearls, dresses, lipstick and heels attire at breakfast. It meant
status, and that portrayal had to be maintained. Switch back to down-to-earth
Aunt Bee, and there's the other reality. One that was actually admired and
secretly wished for. I'm for Aunt Bee, Andy, Opie, and Mayberry. That's my idea
of a real and loving family, and the ideal place for peace and honest
hospitality.
So....... Who can forget those tacky webbed chairs (which you can still find in walmart
and dollar stores), the "melmac" picnic ware and every type of acrylic utensil
and flatware.... most of the gadgets too useless to be functional. But they were
colorful, funky, tacky and make for an awesomely cheerful garden design. If you
grew up in the 50's, you probably remember all the picnic and barbecue stuff Mom
dragged out to the yard, along with the ever-present pitchers of lemonade and
iced tea. The backyard was a family thing, and summer meant cookouts and
Koolade. Most families ate their cookout food on china plates and used real
napkins and cutlery.
Sensible women used Melmac. Pretty
and practical. There was no way you'd eat from a paper plate or out of
Tupperware if you were having guests. I have found some gorgeous pieces of
company-appropriate Melamine, sans the Melmac tackiness of the cheap
stuff..
They're made so well now, I have trouble distinguishing the high end pieces from
china dishes.They have the gloss of china, and beautiful patterns. The stuff i
remember had no gloss, and an occasional flower printed on for
decoration. The colors of some were awful. But go traditional if you want to. I have a large collection of
the old school Melmac, and I do eat on them. You can't microwave them, though.
Things for the Sunday picnic and garden came in beautiful colors, and most of the
dining stuff came in sets of at
least 4 - because you generally had the census figure of 2.5 children to to feed on a
weekday (I guess you had half a child left over with no utensils), and you had
gatherings, cookouts and dinner parties more often than you ate at the kitchen
table or on TV trays in summer. The lawn was idolized, and a status symbol of
sorts. "Look at my house and lawn, I am quite successful". Many
homes were ranches. Many were the "tract" homes, built after the second world war to provide
affordable housing opportunities for veterans to purchase a lovely home in the suburbs,
and they were inexpensively well- built cookie-cutter style, so keeping up and with,
or surpassing The Joneses, was a bloodsport.
I remember the Levitt Homes,
hundreds of similar homes in the suburbs to raise your middle class family
affordably "out on the Island". The benefits of the G.I. Bill
are still available today. VA loans got you a piece of the homeownership
pie. I saw them now and then on
visits back home to NY. Theyre in Levittown, NY. They're still there, and
they're still the same style. There was no such thing as a Homeowner's
Association then, because heaven forbid, someone told you what to do with your
property if they didn't pay your mortgage for you. I feel the same way now. Folks in the 50's had an innate sense
of classy vs. tacky, and they know when they cross a line. Nowadays, tacky is revered as much as classy,
and tacky can be valuable eye candy when it comes
to gardens and backyards, if arranged in a methodical way in a theme.
Picnics and large, metal picnic baskets were
a thing. If you weren't going to a cookout, you most likely took the family on a
picnic. Woven baskets (picnic hampers) were also used, but they weren't as
sturdy, and lacked the colorful paint.
Many families in the suburbs had a big, brick barbecue
grill in the backyard. Those who didn't,
used the big portable kettle or rectangular charcoal grill. Whichever style,
charcoal cooking was mandatory. My parents had the big brick barbecue. To
this day, I wouldn't dream of a cook out without a charcoal grill or that brick
barbecue. There's a decades old argument about which cooks and tastes better,
and I say charcoal. Hands Down. But in the 50's, folks lavished starter fluid
all over those briquettes. I still imagine the smell and taste that stuff
whenever i have a cookout. The male and his son cut the grass with a reel
lawnmower the day before the gathering, and the family began setting up the
table and chairs, and gathering cut flowers for the tables. If you made a dinnertime or Sunday afternoon thing for the
family, prep was done in the morning, and utensils were carefully laid out for
the man, who would wield them with surgical precision and pride when the time came.
Man took over as cook for the weekend, and the cookouts were his domain, and
his pride and joy. The apron was part of the ritual, and they really did make a
mess to justify one. Men were quite serious about the process, the order in
which they cooked the food, for how long, the recipes, and what was served.
Cookout recipe books were written for men. And make no mistake... everyone ended
up with their food well-done or burnt by accident, and no requests to the
contrary were entertained. If you don't believe me, check out the burgers in the
photo above.
Mom did the side dishes and had them ready for
precisely the moment that Dad presented his feast. I have a large collection of
50's ads, and not one of them depicts a woman cooking on a grill. It was a man's
domain. I have, however, seen various ads for women joyfully using the
lawnmower, while Mr. Man sat in the hammock smoking a pipe.The apron was popular
in the middle class, not so much for the hoity toity cookout set. They had no
qualms about wearing a special chef's hat, apparently.
The kids waited patiently for
their food, sipping lemonade and Koolade to pass the time. If you had Sunday
guests and a cookout, it really was kinds neat to socialize until the food was
ready. Woe to the guest who didn't bring the covered dish offering. Some pretty
gross creamy things, things that contained Spam and jiggly things were under
those covers. You all said "Yum!" because otherwise, you'd never get
invited to another backyard soiree again. Kids were meant to be seen, and not
heard, during gatherings with adults. So they'd excuse themselves, and go off
after dinner to play some kind of backyard game while the adults gossipped and
had their cocktails. The next time you saw the kids, would be when dessert was
served.
Adults were quite enamored with barbecues and entertaining. Enough so, that
some fancy people had cocktail parties indoors with built-in barbecue grills,
inserted in stone or brick enclosures that were made to be decorative and
functional. They were part of the decor of the living or dining room with big
space. That's something i wish i had now. Everyone had slab of steak and a
cocktail. Suburban Heaven. Not many were vegetarians in those days.
Accessorizing
The garden also had a unique and a special style. Because it was
part of the backyard decor, the gatherings and atmosphere. Many men had a
hammock to laze and smoke their pipes in while they read the Reader's Digest or
Popular Mechanics on the weekend. There are tons of collectibles that can also
find a home in your 50's garden and outdoor decor, because the majority of stuff
was colorful plastic or painted metal. Get various sizes of flamingos (photo
here). And they have to be pink. The colorful metal picnic
baskets can reside in your garden and backyard decor - place plants in plastic
or terra cotta pots on top of the basket with the handles up, or take the lid
off and fill it with terra cotta pots of geraniums. Get the colorful plastic
pitchers and tumblers. There are tons of
stuff you can pick up at flea markets and yard sales, and second hand shop to
accessorize your backyard and garden with. It's a lot of fun to find that
turquoise, black and pink stuff to add to your decor and picnic table.
Get the
real stuff, there's plenty around to choose from. Many modern-day companies have jumped on
the Retro Bandwagon. It's just not the same feeling of nostalgia. If you collect
50's kitchen, dining and garden stuff, Bring It Outside for the summer,
and decorate with it. Tacky hanging lights are also awesome. As are the colorful
watering cans that beg to be vases.
You can incorporate a really fun and decorative retro-garden to celebrate the
50's style of decor, colors and implements.
First thing you'll need is that brick barbecue or an old school charcoal grill.
Second thing would be the aprons. They were worn by men and women and were a
must-have. No mom would even go near the kitchen without one. She had an
everyday version, and she had one for entertaining in the evening. Pretty fancy,
too. I wondered why they always seemed spotless. Not so, the man's. Third, you
have to have the tackiest lawn furniture you can find, hopefully in turquoise,
pinks and black. It was really a decade of family-based gatherings and socializing, and flower
gardens were a small part of the culture.
After all the research and trips down memory
lane i embarked upon for this article, I got to thinking the
majority of the suburban gardeners just didn't garden very well. Reminds me of
the Lucy episode, "Lucy Raises Tulips".... the recently-suburban Lucy
accidentally mowed down her friend and flower show competitor's tulips, and then
planted wax tulips to replace them.
In the hot sun. You know the rest.
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